Say Gerv? My wife really wants to get a tattoo, but I don’t want her to because it’s not my thing. Should I stand my ground on this?
Sal, Cambridge, MA
Sal, you can stand your ground, but you might be sleeping on the couch. I’m with your wife on this one. You can argue this one and probably come up with some good points, but your wife can end the conversation with these three words, “it’s my body,” and she is correct. It is her body and she can do what she wants to it. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying pick your battles. Well this is one you shouldn’t. Give the wife this one and save that standing your ground stuff for the big one. Trust me there will be a big one and you’re going to want to put the 16oz gloves on for that. Instead of fighting this why not get matching tattoos with your wife? I know you said it’s not your thing, but think about it. You pick some small matching tattoo and get it on a part of your body that only you both will see. Not only will that make your wife very happy, but it’s kind of cool and sexy too. Plus, you just earned a “you owe me one” favor that you can use at a later date. Now I’m saying all this because I’m assuming she wants to get a cute little tattoo somewhere. If it’s some big one on her face like Mike Tyson then yes fight her and fight her hard.
Say Gerv? My girlfriend loves PDA. She’s always trying to kiss me in public, but it makes me feel uncomfortable with everybody watching. How do I get her to stop?
Jeff, South Boston, MA
Jeff I do not feel your pain. Come on man, what’s wrong with a little PDA? Now if she’s trying to check your tonsils that’s one thing, but if she’s giving you a few kisses to show her love I say embrace it. Didn’t this ever come up in conversation before you started dating? You know when you talk about your likes and dislikes with each other. Don’t people still do that? And what makes you think people are watching you? Nobody’s paying attention or cares if you and your girl are canoodling. Now if it really bothers you that much you need to be very careful walking that fine line of being a nice guy and being a jerk. You don’t want your girlfriend feeling like you’re embarrassed or ashamed of her. You could be planting the seeds for a future break up without even knowing it. Jeff, take a minute and put yourself in her shoes. She loves PDA, but can’t get you to do more of it. I’m sure that’s frustrating for her. Try making a compromise, like it’s ok to hold hands and kiss on the cheek, but it’s not ok to rub me all over and tongue me down. (Does anyone still say tongue me down besides me?) This way you both get what you want and you both are giving up something. That’s what relationships are all about, give and take. Oh and for the record Jeff, there are worse problems to have in life then your girlfriend showing you some love. I’m just saying.
Say Gerv? Sometimes I feel like my boyfriend is faking an orgasm during sex. Is that even possible? Why would he do that? Is it me? Help!!
Stacy, Seaport Boston, MA
Stacy yes it’s absolutely possible for men to fake an orgasm during sex. Hell, I’ve faked it a few times myself. This one time I had this girl and she wanted me to plank her, so I….wait this isn’t about me. As I was saying, women find it hard to believe that men can even do such a thing. Woman also cannot fathom why men would even have to fake it either. Well just like you ladies, sometimes we aren’t in the mood, we get headaches, we’re distracted with life or we’re just empty. So in these situations to not make the moment awkward or have you thinking the problem is you which it’s not, I repeat which it is not, we go to plan B and fake it. This way you think we’re satisfied and we don’t have to do any explaining. Stacy what you should do is talk to your boyfriend about your concerns. Communication is the key. To quote myself “lack of communication is the number one breakdown in every relationship –boss/employee, parents/kids, boyfriend/girlfriend”. The only way to know for sure is to ask. Good luck with that. There was no sarcasm in that last sentence. Ok maybe just a little.
Gervase Peterson has made history as the first African-American male in the #1 all-time reality series Survivor. Hollywood is no stranger to Gervase as well after appearing and co-hosting with several national television programs.