Say Gerv? This girl I’m dating makes great money and loves to pay for everything even if I offer. I feel uncomfortable with this. Should I make her stop?
-Rob, Newton, MA
Wait a minute Rob! Let me get this straight. You have a girl who likes to take care of her man by paying the bills for everything and you’re thinking about making her stop? Lean in a little closer please so I can slap you silly!! Look I’ve been in your shoes before Rob. I dated this fine AF Puerto Rican girl who was just like your girl and loved to pay for everything. No matter how much I would offer to pay she just wouldn’t let me. I realized I was dating a very strong independent woman who was an equal not only mentally, but financially as well. Money wasn’t an issue for her and she really enjoyed taking care of things. And the reason it worked was because I was secure with myself.
Rob I’ve dated woman who made more money than me (a CEO), looked better than me (a model) and were stronger than me (a bodybuilder). None of that every bothered me. As long as I was happy that’s all that mattered and that should go for you as well. Rob, it’s 2020 if you haven’t noticed it yet. Women are doing everything men are doing and some things better. You need to get with the times and wise up before she upgrades to a Gervase.
Say Gerv? I’ve always drank Sam Adams Boston Lager, but my buddies say I should try craft beers. Is there really a difference?
-Jimmy, Boston, MA
Jimmy, lagers are some good stuff, but if you want to broaden your horizons with beer then you need to check out some breweries right in your own backyard. There’s Dorchester, Trillium and Night Shift to name a few and so many more. Craft beers are made with traditional and non-traditional ingredients along with innovation and unique styles by the craft brewer. This love and craftsmanship of making beer is what gives it such a unique flavor. So much flavor that it makes you want to look at beer in a different way. My personal analogy is Sam Adams is like getting a fast food burger. Frozen beef, cheese, tomato, lettuce, onion. Yea it’s good. Then there’s a gourmet burger crafted with fresh ground beef, Gouda cheese, sun dried tomatoes, avocado, roasted peppers and a bounty of other toppings. Do you see the difference Jimmy? These other toppings have taken a simple burger to new heights and that’s what these breweries are doing with beer. There’s nothing wrong with regular beer, it’s just that craft beers have more flavor which gets people excited about drinking it. Some of these tap rooms have over 20 beers to choose from so there’s something to please everyone. There are sour beers, coffee beers, fruity beers, beers that taste like whiskey and more. So there you go Jimmy and if you see me out and about my next chilly brew haha is on you!
Say Gerv? I want my girlfriend to be a little freakier in the bedroom, but I don’t want to freak her out. How can I get her to open up more?
-Chris, Burlington, MA
Well, ok Mr. Freak Nasty or should I call you Mr. Grey. I see, you’re trying to have your own Anastasia like in 50 Shades of Grey. Well if you want your woman to open up more in the bedroom Chris, you have to take it slow. Don’t go for the homerun right away. Just like when you were a kid, you have to get to all the bases before you can score at home plate. If you want your woman to dress up take her to a store and help her pick out an outfit that not only you’ll like, but she’ll like too. Also be willing to dress up yourself and make it fun for her. If you want to introduce her to sex toys try taking her to one of those sex toy house parties that I heard about, but I have never been to. This way she’ll get to hear other women talk about what they like and things they’ve tried and enjoyed. Hearing others sing the praises of certain toys may make her want to try them too. You don’t want to pressure her into doing anything. Talk to her and let her know how you feel and what you want her to do. You never know she may want you to open up more yourself. So be ready to reciprocate. Next thing you know you’ll be doing Red Wings, Alaskan Pipelines and Bronco Busters. And no I haven’t tried them, I just heard about them. What kind of guy do you think I am?
Say Gerv? I’m 40 years old and I’ve never been married and don’t want to be. All my friends are giving me a hard time. Is it ok to be a bachelor for life?
-Adam, Brookline, MA
Adam, marriage isn’t for everyone. So if that’s something you don’t want to do then don’t do it just to please others. Your friends are probably just concerned about you and don’t want to see you end up being the lonely lottery scratch off man. That’s like the counterpart to the lonely cat lady. But here’s the thing. If you’re happy being by yourself then there’s nothing wrong with that. Marriage is a serious step and something that you only want to do once. But the key is finding the right person. My friend Troy is a serial dater. He doesn’t want a serious relationship and it’s not because he wants to mess with every woman out there. It’s because he doesn’t want to commit to a woman because he really enjoys doing what he wants to do when he wants to do it without having to answer to anyone but himself. And he’s man enough not to lead any woman on having them thinking that he wants something they want. The way I see it is if you’re honest and know what you want with your life then you’re doing the right thing and being a bachelor for life is it.
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Gervase Peterson has made history as the first African-American male in the #1 all-time reality series Survivor. Hollywood is no stranger to Gervase as well after appearing and co-hosting with several national television programs.
